“One of his students asked Buddha, ‘Are you the messiah?’ ‘No,’ answered Buddha. ‘Then are you a healer?’ ‘No.’ ‘Then are you a teacher?’ ‘No, I am not a teacher.’ ‘Then what are you?’ asked the student, exasperated. ‘I am awake,’ Buddha replied.”
To be truly available to your child, you must first seek to understand yourself. A child is like a mirror — one that forces you to look within and discover both your strengths and your growing edges. Parenting requires that we examine our own behavior and let go of habits that no longer serve us. No one can tell you how to be a parent. They can only inspire you to grow into your own unique expression of parenthood. When we assume the role of a parent, we gain immense potential for spiritual awakening. This is what I call awakened parenting.
Awakened parenting rests on three building blocks:
- Accepting your own innate desire to receive
- Creating a personal shift from receiving to giving
- Creating healthy boundaries between the two
According to Kabbalah, parenting leads you to a higher level on the ladder of spirituality — because the focus is no longer solely on your own desires, but on those of another living being. In Hebrew, the word for parent is horeh, meaning “to show the way.” The word for child is yeled, which relates to giving birth. In spiritual terms, parenting calls us to guide our children toward what inspires their soul — to help them give birth to themselves.
The concept of love in Kabbalah is summed up in one expression: “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” This is the Golden Rule found across all moral philosophies and religions. Loving your child means adopting their desires in order to help them fulfill their needs — while not negating your own. This is why healthy boundaries are not in conflict with unconditional love. They are a requirement of it.
In Kabbalah, the sphere of Binah on the Tree of Life corresponds to the energy of the Divine Mother. Binah loves unconditionally — and is also capable of setting clear, sacred boundaries. A vessel can only give to the extent that it is filled. A true Binahtit must replenish her own energy in order to keep showing up for her child.
When you give birth to your child, you simultaneously give birth to a completely different version of yourself. You are the vessel through which life comes. Motherhood creates a double impact — you are supporting the journey of your beloved child, and at the same time, birthing your inner Binahtit. This journey allows you to unlock your valor and show up in the world as a vulnerable, powerful, unapologetic woman — for yourself and for your family.
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5 Ways to Practice Awakened Parenting:
- Know yourself first. Your child reflects you back to yourself — the parts you love and the parts you’re still working on. Use this mirror with curiosity, not judgment.
- Fill your own vessel. You cannot pour from empty. Rest, nourish yourself, maintain your spiritual practice. A replenished mother is a present mother.
- Guide, don’t control. Your role is horeh — to show the way. Your child’s soul has its own path. Trust it, support it, and step back when needed.
- Love with boundaries. Unconditional love does not mean unlimited availability. Model healthy boundaries for your child — they will learn from what you do, not what you say.
- Awaken together. Parenting is not something that happens to you — it is a spiritual practice you choose. Show up with presence, humility and a willingness to grow alongside your child.
