Can you honestly say that you’ve experienced a true spiritual relationship? One built on unconditional love, that allows another soul to touch your heart. A love that makes you unite simultaneously with your lover and with your higher self? If not, do you feel as if you’re longing for that type of love? And where is this longing coming from anyway? Can you satisfy this longing?
Many of us are seeking to be fulfilled — to find the one partner who can complete us, who can make us whole! But the truth is we do not find love; rather, we create it. Loving is a process, and we need to stay aware of that.
A Spiritual Relationship Is Work, Not Luck
It’s not about meeting someone and falling in love, but rather the work we do with that person. An authentic love relationship, rooted in spiritual values, requires each partner to work individually and for the couple to work together.
The Book of Splendor (the Zohar) tells the story of King David and Bat Sheva — a love that people in biblical times considered sinful. Yet the Bible must never be read literally. Behind every story lies a hidden teaching.
The couples of the Bible teach us how to identify and correct where we are not loving toward ourselves and others. To the degree that your mind is filled with unconditional love, you can express and experience unconditional opportunities.
David and Bat Sheva’s union began in lust and wrongdoing — and they paid a high price. Yet once they corrected their actions, they manifested a miracle: they conceived King Solomon, whose name in Hebrew literally means wholeness.
How to Strengthen Your Spiritual Relationship
- Stay away from believing that your partner is in charge of making you happy. We each have what is called in Kabbalah “Chisaron” — a lack. That lack is what pushes us to connect with our higher self. Most of us tend to forget about our higher self when all is well. The only thing that can fill your lack is a relationship with your higher self, your soul. It’s never another person. Yes, your partner can help you feel more complete, but only to the degree that you are doing your own work.
- Aspire to balance and unite the masculine and feminine polarities within yourself so you can attract the right person. A relationship maintains lasting passion when both polarities are present. Gender doesn’t determine polarity — energy does. Therefore, when we fall in love, we fall in love with the opposite polarity of ourselves, not with a specific gender. Understanding the two polarities is what helps us build attraction and keep the passion alive in our relationships.
- Identify your Alchemical Love Archetype. The Bible’s characters offer various archetypes: Chavah or Eve, both mother of life and femme fatale; Sarah, the healer; Rebecca, the alchemist; and Rachel, the sexual high priestess. These represent humanity’s original patterns — a common thread that binds us together. Don’t attach to just one; let them all guide you through your journey. To learn about your archetype Click Here.
- Practice Tzimtzum. A common aspect of most successful love relationships is a quality called Tzimtzum — the ability to withdraw your ego to make space for your partner’s needs. Tzimtzum literally means reduction and decrease, which creates opportunities for something NEW.
- Recognize the silver lining. Bless your challenges as an opportunity for growth. Many love relationships teach us that life sometimes takes painful twists, and that we all experience, at some point or another, the dark night of the soul. But in the end, our journey always means to bring us back to love and we must savor every moment.
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