We all engage in the habit of talking to ourselves. The truth is we cannot stop talking to ourselves and are not even aware of the infinite dialogues on loop in our mind. And yet these internal dialogues are the main cause of our external reality. Now imagine a relationship with another person, perhaps your love mate. Each of you is already engaging in your own inner dialogue! How can true, authentic conversation then take place? Instead of relating to one another you may be convinced that your partner is unfair towards you. The truth is, your partner only echos back to you your own inner dialogue.
If these conversations dictate your reality and affect the way you communicate with others, yet you cannot really stop them, what is left for you to do? You are not as powerless as it may seem.
Although you cannot stop these conversations, you can refine them. You can actively direct your inner dialogue to an end that is satisfactory to you!